Directions for Handling a Toxic Relationship

When a relationship is causing you stress and suffering, follow these five steps to find more peace.

Last week, I had lunch with a friend. As we were walking out, she mentioned that she had to see someone who hadn’t always been kind to her, a relationship that caused her more stress and suffering than anything else. She’d been avoiding the meeting, but now it looked inevitable. “She just makes me so […]

People often underestimate how much they need to make a difference in OTHER people’s lives in order to be happy. But when we find our particular way to make others happier, we find our own little nirvana.

Confessions of a Bad Meditator

I know meditation is good for me--but I've avoided it for 30 years. Here’s why.

When I was in high school, my advisor, Michael Mulligan, called my parents to recommend a special treatment for my anxiety: Transcendental Meditation (“TM”). I was a high-achieving perfectionist so anxious, at times, that I had stress-induced asthma. Mr. Mulligan was not then, and is not now, a new-age spiritual seeker. He is a dyed-in-the-wool New […]

Want to know what my best happiness advice is? It’s all here!

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Christine Carter studies human happiness — and what holds us back from living our most joyful lives. In a personal, eyebrow-raising talk, she shares the surprising secret to feeling fulfilled. This is a talk to share with anyone addicted to social media.”

Happiness Tip: Take Time to Rest

When the holiday season is underway, rest is key.

This may be “the happiest time of year” for some, but if it isn’t for you, I think it’s at least in part because we get so darn tired. Let this be your friendly reminder to actually take time to rest between now and January 2nd. I used to find it hard to rest at […]

My Best Happiness Advice

If I could only pick three things to teach my children, this is what I would choose.


I’ve made a lot of happiness mistakes. I know you will make some of those same mistakes. But there are certain things I’ve finally learned that I hope you learn earlier than I did. For starters, the best way to be happy is to make kindness the central theme in your life. Usually we think […]

How to Buy Happiness

Holiday gift ideas to help you buy happiness.

Even though we say we can’t buy happiness, we often behave as though we can. Why else would we spend so much time shopping? What if I told you that you actually can buy happiness, for yourself, or for someone else? Well, you can! Here’s how. For starters, remember that there is a huge difference […]

Happiness Tip: Go Easy on Yourself

Why self-criticism doesn't work.

Happiness Tip - Go Easy on Yourself - Christine Carter

Fun fact: Most people are starting to falter at their New Year’s Resolutions by now. If you are anything like me, setbacks, lapses, and mistakes can come with a fair amount of self-flagellation. Somehow I think that if I’m really hard on myself, I’ll be less likely to make the same mistake again, or I’ll […]

Happiness Tip: Trade Expectations for Gratitude

Recover from disappointment by noticing what's really going on in your life.

Happiness Tip - Trade Expectations for Gratitude - Christine Carter

Feeling frustrated or disappointed? It isn’t that we shouldn’t have high expectations, or that we shouldn’t feel hurt when someone lets us down. But one of the best ways to recover from disappointment is to notice what actually is going well in our lives. Gratitude is one of the most powerful positive emotions we have — we have reams of […]