Compelling research indicates that the pursuit of happiness—when our definition of happiness is synonymous with pleasure and easy gratification—won’t ultimately bring us deeper feelings of fulfillment; it won’t allow us to live in our sweet spot. Although we claim that the “pursuit of happiness” is our inalienable right and the primary driver of the human race, we humans do better pursuing fulfillment and meaning—creating lives that generate the feeling that we matter.

And how do we do that? How, exactly do we pursue meaning rather than happiness? We establish our connection to something larger than ourselves; we give ourselves to others.

I dedicate a full chapter to this topic in my book The Sweet Spot, now available for pre-order in paperback!

People often underestimate how much they need to make a difference in OTHER people’s lives in order to be happy. But when we find our particular way to make others happier, we find our own little nirvana.

Want to know what my best happiness advice is? It’s all here!

Here’s the TEDx video description:

Christine Carter studies human happiness — and what holds us back from living our most joyful lives. In a personal, eyebrow-raising talk, she shares the surprising secret to feeling fulfilled. This is a talk to share with anyone addicted to social media.”

Two days after her husband of 67 years passed away, Norma was informed that she had uterine cancer and the treatment options included surgery, chemotherapy and radiation. Norma looked the doctor in the eye and said, “I’m 90 years old, I’m hitting the road.”  Instead of chemo and radiation, she spent the last year of her life seeing places she’d never seen, doing things she’d never done, like getting a pedicure and riding in a hot air balloon. She is a true inspiration.